12.30.2007

Live From the South Pacific

I'm transferring some older blogs from my myspace account before I delete it. Enjoy this golden oldie, originally posted 12/30/07:

I haven't done one of these in awhile, but I've been lamenting that I am really not keeping up with people's lives as well as I could or should, so here's one little post to update anyone who might stop by on what's going on with me lately.

I'm writing this while I wait for my laundry to finish so that I can start packing to fly back to Los Angeles tomorrow; I've spent the last seven or eight days in Hawai'i visiting future in-laws and it's been amazing.  They claim the weather is awful and apologize profusely every day, but 78 degrees and cloudy with the occasional rain storm is A-Okay in my book.  I'm awful at the photo part of vacations though; I've taken one picture, of Katrina's mouth, since I've been here.  It's not like there isn't awe-inpsiring scenery around every turn.  I just am too busy cooing like a slack-jawed yokel to remember to grab my little digital camera.  I need some new pics of Kat and I though, so hopefully we'll snap a few today.

I still get the occasional confused text message, email, or phone call so I'll put it on blast:  I'm engaged!  Kat and I met in May in Manhattan Beach and just clicked.  All that bizarre movie stuff about "just knowing" and actually being in love and feeling loved is true.  You just have to go through a lot of interesting relationships looking for it before you really discover it, I suppose.

Of course since she moved in with me from New York we've fought like cats and dogs, but I think that's the adjustment from being alone and not living with a female for quite a few years to suddenly sharing a bed with someone again.  It's also her first time co-habitating so there will be arguments, paradigms broken, views skewed, etc.  It's all worth it though.

The wedding's set for October 19, 2008 and will be in Hawaii.  We're scouting for locations today, as a matter of fact.  I'm pretty sure we have it nailed down, but obviously getting to see it while we're on the island would be a big plus and help us commit the investment, which Kat's generous generous parents have put forth as a wedding gift.

That reminds me:  my new in-laws are amazing.  I am acquiring a seemingly indifferent brother-in-law and his wife, as well as their adorable daughter (I'm an uncle!  Sorta!), a hilarious and intensely creative and amazing sister-in-law who I think I connect with in such a way that it makes Kat a little jealous, and the kindest, most loving and generous parents you could hope to meet.  Seriously.  I've never been treated so well as a guest and it almost makes me self conscious that I've never treated my guests this way.  My new family is golden, man.  Having a reason to jet out to Hawaii a few times a year isn't bad either.

On my side of things, my parents are finalizing a divorce they've been inevitably careening towards for the last year and a half.  It's been awful, and magnified by the fact that I feel guilty for being across the country while they sort things out and move.  My dad is getting an apartment near his work and my mom is buying a house somewhere near the old one, I think.  There's just no way to feel okay about it.  I keep telling myself I'm 26 and out of the house and it shouldn't hurt so much but it does.  Not to mention that every spat Kat and I have is amplified in my head to the point where I see us divorcing in 27 years because I left the toilet seat up or something similarly ridiculous.  It's got me all scattered and frantic and manic and I am very thankful Kat can see through the drama to why I am acting so weird and put up with me.  It's time for some pretty intense introspection and therapy, I think.

Back in LA, my cousin Greg is moving back home to the St. Louis area.  He's been out in SoCal for three years or so, and said it was about time for him to head back, but I can't help feel like his decision was sped up by my arriving.  Maybe it's just me piling on some more guilt to carry around.  I don't know.  Either way, Kat and I are looking for apartments in Los Angeles near my work and will be in a new place by February.  Hopefully we'll have a place big enough so people can come crash once in awhile.

Kat bought me Improv classes at the Upright Citizens Brigade theatre.  It's something I've always wanted and have talked about doing since I got to LA but could never seem to pull the trigger on.  Now I've got no excuses and I'm looking forward to meeting some like-minded writers in the area and honing my skills, or at least discovering if I have skills.

That's the news from Holualoa, HI I suppose.  Drop me a line, text or call me sometime if you get the urge.  The two hour time difference can be a pain with my Midwestern friends occasionally but it all works out eventually.  Take care and let me know what's going on with you sometime.